Every time you say yes to someone, you're taking time away from yourself.
How interesting is that? And so true. I thought and thought about this. See I'm one of those people who would do anything for anybody and I often do. I think fifty years ago that was just how life worked. These days not so much. People don't reciprocate like they used to.
I know I don't take enough "ME" time. I'm worth it. I love myself. I wouldn't want to spend the next fifty years with anyone else. So why is it that I don't take the time I should? I don't have a clue. I could make excuses about how my family needs me and no one else can do what I can. I could say that karma will shoot death rays at people who don't help me when they say they're going to. Heck, I could even say it's in the genes so to speak.
The truth is I love the feeling of accomplishment. Doesn't have anything to do with anyone but me. I make lists, tons of them just ask my family, and when I cross things off I feel good. I like it when I finish a manuscript, submit a story, or even help a friend with edits. I've come to the conclusion that my dilemma is balance.
Help me out one and all. Does your day have five hours too few? Do you say yes when you should go with no? How do you balance time for yourself and time for others?
(running off to accomplish another feat!)
Kissa Starling
www.kissastarling.com
6 comments:
Kissa, I so do this.
Right now as matter of fact. Here I need to get reviews done and now I am babysitting.
I wished I could just say"NO", I have things to do.
Kissa,
This is a thought provoking blog because I say yes when I don't want to and it gets me in trouble every time. I only say yes without hesitation to my book characters because we know how bossy they can be.
AJ
Great point AJ. I say yes to my characters also but I think that's part of writing. My writing at least!
Thanks for stopping by.
Deb, I'm right there with ya. Let's work on that.
Kissa
I do the same thing, Kissa. Say yes to just about everything. I then wonder how I'm going to fit it all into my schedule. This leaves very little time for me.
Mary Ann I say we take back our ME time and do what's best for us. The rest of life will just work out one way or another.
Great blog Kissa and I often wonder this as well. Thing is, we want to be so many people at the same time - we are wives, mothers, writers, domestic goddesses, and Lord knows what else. And we want to do it all well. It's impossible. I used to think I had to cook every day AND get all my business and creative chores done but I don't any more. Now my hub cooks as much as I do.
I'm always available when a friend asks for help but at the same time, one has to be true to oneself too. I've learned to say when I don't have time, and I'm learning, slowly but surely, that I, least of all people, should not be the one to stress myself out.
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