Bi-Curious
Have you ever heard the term Bi-Curious? Do you know what it means?
I have come across this term three or four times in the last few weeks. I all cases it referred to women but I suppose men could be bi-curious as well.
I found the following discussion involving Bi-curiosity on the internet and decided to share it with you.
What is Bi-Curious?
A bi-curious person is a heterosexual man or woman who also finds the idea of same sex coupling intriguing.
True confessions, girls: Have you ever wondered what it might be like to kiss the lips of another woman? Ever woken from a lusty dream about a lady lover? Ever secretly mused about being, you know, intimate, with a girlfriend? If you whispered yes to any of these questions, you might just be bi-curious.
What does it mean?
Let's pretend you'd never in your whole life eaten anything but Italian food: Ziti, lasagna, manicotti — all perfectly tasty stuff. Nobody would raise an eyebrow if you eventually started wondering about the flavors of Indian, Chinese or French cuisine, right? (seemed like a weak analogy to me)
So, would it be strange for a woman who's been with only men her whole life to develop a curiosity about what else is out there. Would a female paramour have a whole new take on lovemaking? What's it like to be in a romantic relationship with a woman? The bi-curious woman may choose to pursue her curiosities into the real world, or keep them tucked secretly into her own private fa
ntasyland. It's entirely up to her — and it's nobody's business but her own.
Are all straight women bi-curious?
No, not necessarily. Woman-to-woman friendships are famous for deep emotional intimacy and tender physical affection. Heart connections and handholds between two girlfriends don't necessarily imply any sexual undercurrents whatsoever. It's a time-tested recipe for a genuinely close, and purely platonic, bond.
Is bi-curiosity just a fleeting fancy, or does it mean that deep down I'm really bisexual, or even lesbian?
It could be a passing reverie, or it could be the beginning of some big changes. According to the Kinsey Scale, a widely accepted measure of sexual orientation, very few people are strictly heterosexual, or exclusively gay. In fact, most people's sexual orientation falls somewhere along the spectrum in between the two absolutes, and it can change over time. Fantasies, dreams and curiosities may drift across gender lines, whether or not they are ever acted upon. In other words, most folks have at least some capacity for bisexuality at some point in their lives, be it in the imagination or in the bedroom. And it's perfectly normal.
But wait, I've always assumed I was straight!
And so you may be. But sisters, Sappho was no fool. Women are beautiful creatures. (As a man, I can vouch for this) Who amongst the living can gaze upon the Venus de Milo and not be captivated by those callipygian curves? Add the sensuality and sensibility of a real live female, and you really can't blame a girl if she becomes a little intrigued from time to time.
So, it's all good?
Sexual orientation is not simply black and white, and it is not carved in stone. And bi-curiosity is just that: Curiosity. The musings of your erotic imagination are your own private business, and it's up to you to pursue a lifestyle and lovestyle that suits you. These days it's all about being true to yourself, being responsible and honest with others, and enjoying love, lust and life itself to the fullest.
One woman’s description of her Bi-Curiosity:
For me, it means that you have been straight in practice, but have had same-sex leanings that you have not explored. I think it is different to being bi-sexual. I once said to a bi-woman that I don’t feel that I can yet call myself bi-sexual because I have not had a same-sex sexual experience. She countered with the argument that the world is filled with virgins who know they are straight. She had a point, which made me think. I guess in the end, I'd rather "try it out" before I make up my mind.
So Ladies
Are any of you Bi-curious? Do any of you have Bi-sexual leanings? An experience? Do you dare to tell us?
I’m Curious
Whether bi-curious, bi-sexual or hopelessly heterosexual, I’d like hear your thoughts.
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7 comments:
Funny thing, things started warming up between myself and a dear friend, and beautiful as she is, I just didn't get turned on with her. I tried. However, I recently met a woman who about blew me out of my shoes; a cute, tough little firefighter with a million watt smile. She was taken, otherwise, I'd had been all over her. Never thought of myself as bisexual or curous, but obviously the tendency is there. It was a rather fun discovery. Now if she'd just dump the girlfriend...
Great blog and I just noticed it- a bit late but still I want to comment. My hubby says that all women are a few drinks shy of being lesbians. I don't know that I'd agree with that but I do think that a lot of women are Bi-curious. I also agree that the female form is gorgeous. There's just so much more to look at! : )
Kissa
I am bi-curious. I have been married once. My ex-husband's first wife (I was his second wife) was bisexual and had a girlfriend during their marriage. They had threesomes.
After he and his first wife divorced, he stayed in a relationship for a while with the girlfriend who was the third party in their threesome. That relationship did not work out because, in short, she was psycho and he finally figured that out.
He did not want to repeat the same experience again so he put the kibosh on any potential threesomes while he and I were married.
Now we are divorced and I am single. I will not rule out the potential for a future date to be with a woman.
I am still too shy to put my name to this post, sorry.
Only YOU would focus on the female side of the coin.
I see bisexuality as a thing most of us are just not in touch with.. Being a bisexual author gives me a better chance at getting laid LOL!
But most human beings are curious, even if it's only in their heads.
I'm bi-curious. I've always wondered what it would be like to be with another woman. Tila Tequila in particular. That woman is GORGEOUS!!! I don't know, somehow I think all women at one time or another wonder what its like to be with or at least kiss another woman....
Sorry I'm so slow getting back to everyones comment. I was busting to get a Halloween story out and now they say they may not need it.
Anyway Anonymous 1, I think that's the way it would work. A straight man or woman wouldn't suddenly decide they are interested in the same sex. One or maybe two men or women would suddenly capture their imagination. They may stay focused on that person or they may begin to notice other attractions as well.
Kissa, I agree with you. I think a lot of women are bi-curious. I have two myspace friends who claim to be bi-curious. That's where I first came across the term.
Anonymous 2, That's quite a story. You ought to write a book. LOL Funny thing is two of my books, Getting Naked at the Hilton and By the Book, get into threesome bi-sexual relationships (f/f/m) and another one called Tattoos, has a lesbian sex scene between two straight women. Thanks for writing
Hi Sascha, You write what you're comfortable with. I did say I imagined there would be men who were bi-curious too. Oddly websites I visited on Bi-curiousity dealt almost exclusively with bi-curious women.
Anonymous 3, Again, I agree. I'm sure many if not most woman have wonder about at least kissing another woman. I think straight women by nature would be more open to the idea of same sex intimacy.
Thanks all for your comments. In two days I will be posting another blog.
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