A friend and I just returned from the weekend in Napa, California. Wine country, for those who haven't heard of it. Yesterday morning, we woke to the very energetic sounds of the couple next door (very thin walls in this hotel). BOTH were having a very loud, good time. For a long time. A very very very long time.
I swear, when they were finished, my friend and I couldn't decide if we wanted to start cheering for them, or go next door and interview them...their stamina was amazing!
So it brings to mind my question of the day...
How long is long enough for you when you're having sex?
Well, I suppose it might also matter whether you're 'handling things yourself' or with a partner. In the May issue of the Journal of Sexual Medicine, a survey of sex therapists concluded the optimal amount of time for sexual intercourse was 3 to 13 minutes.
Dr. Irwin Goldstein, editor of the Journal of Sexual Medicine, cited a four-week study of 1,500 couples in 2005 that found the median time for sexual intercourse was 7.3 minutes.
Hmmm. While the sex therapists admitted the 3 to 13 minutes of sex did not include foreplay, for a romance writer it still seems pretty stingy to me.
Or does a quickie on the office desk do it for you?
Or does just dreaming about it fulfill your wildest desires?
Me, I'll take it as it comes (pun intended)... quickies have their places, but so do the marathon all nighters. Romance varies for everyone, and whatever flips your lid, from quickies to longies, enjoy it!