A friend and I just returned from the weekend in Napa, California. Wine country, for those who haven't heard of it. Yesterday morning, we woke to the very energetic sounds of the couple next door (very thin walls in this hotel). BOTH were having a very loud, good time. For a long time. A very very very long time.
I swear, when they were finished, my friend and I couldn't decide if we wanted to start cheering for them, or go next door and interview them...their stamina was amazing!
So it brings to mind my question of the day...
How long is long enough for you when you're having sex?
Well, I suppose it might also matter whether you're 'handling things yourself' or with a partner. In the May issue of the Journal of Sexual Medicine, a survey of sex therapists concluded the optimal amount of time for sexual intercourse was 3 to 13 minutes.
Dr. Irwin Goldstein, editor of the Journal of Sexual Medicine, cited a four-week study of 1,500 couples in 2005 that found the median time for sexual intercourse was 7.3 minutes.
Hmmm. While the sex therapists admitted the 3 to 13 minutes of sex did not include foreplay, for a romance writer it still seems pretty stingy to me.
So what about you? Do you need to "shake it all night long" for it to be good for you?Or does a quickie on the office desk do it for you?
Or does just dreaming about it fulfill your wildest desires?
Me, I'll take it as it comes (pun intended)... quickies have their places, but so do the marathon all nighters. Romance varies for everyone, and whatever flips your lid, from quickies to longies, enjoy it!
Cassidy McKay
8 comments:
All right. Who finked on me? Who told them about my three minute problem?
Was it you Tess?
At least I precede that with an hour of poorplay.
Good blog Cassidy. Very TIMELY! LOL
LOL, great blog Cass.
For me it is when ever we get the chance we take it.
With kids running around you take what you can;) even if it is a quicky during lunch breaks on his desk :0
Quickies work for me. After ten years of marriage, I still love good sex, but I appreciate when it doesn't take all night. A girl has other things to do after all.
Then there's assholes like me who CAN go all night because of the "I can't get off" issue..
Good post, and the average used to be 25 minutes, so I made it my goal to last 30! You win some, you REALLY win others ;)
Sascha
DEE, you're a hoot!!!! LOL.
Great topic Cass, I'll take all of those options if you don't mind. WOOT!!
Being a single mom, with way to many jobs, I only get certain days where I can get the groove on, and I'll take it any way it wants to come, (Pun intended too) Hehehehhe.
Why is it my name keeps popping up all the time? I have no clue as to how long Dee can last. I'm telling your wife about this, Dee.
Now as for how long? Well quickies are good if they are the kind of quickies that stem from the fact that you just all of a just gotta have it and you are pressed for time. That's passion! So if a quickie is based on undeniable passion, hell yeah...
otherwise...hell no.
And that time period that is being quoted sucks! Any man who climbs into bed with me better be expecting something longer than 13 minutes. I'll kick his behind straight out of bed if he starts with that kind of time frame in mind. Hell foreplay needs to last longer than that!
Good subject, Cassidy!
LOL Dee!
Thanks everyone for your comments. It was really interesting what they thought the 'average' should be.
Me--with 4 kids and a hubby who works very long hours away from home, I'll take it whenever and however I can.
Cassidy
I think most people would love to have long marathons but in this day and age...most people get what they can..LOL
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