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Sunday, March 9, 2008

DOES SIZE MATTER? Dee's Initial Midnight Seduction Blog

Hi everyone, My name is…Dee Dawning and I’ll be writing the blog for Midnight Seductions on or about the ninth of each month.

For those who scratch their collective heads and wonder who the h*ll is Dee Dawning, here is a thumbnail. I live in Cave Creek, Arizona with my lovely wife of twenty-six years, three dogs and an overly friendly Persian cat. After writing music and other product reviews (some of which were humorous) for several years, I took up writing fiction exactly three years ago. My fifth novel, Getting Naked at the Hilton, was released on Valentines Day and if you don’t want me to send the boys after you, I advise you to pick it up. However, if you don’t like to read about good clean imaginative sex and plenty of it, you’re exempt. But more on that later.

Back to the blog. Sometimes what I write will be serious and sometimes I may be a little silly. For my first blog, I’m going to be serious. Well, almost. My subject is the male response to the eternal women’s question, ‘Does Size Matter? Are you ready?

Does Size Matters to Men?

Size has been debated among women for hundreds of years, maybe since Adam and Eve. (Eve used to talk to Adam’s other ribs) So I thought a little input from a male perspective might be in order. Yes, a lover should be thoughtful, adventurous, imaginative, have good technique, etc. and proper sized equipment to satisfy his partner.

I’m an average male with average equipment and an over-average imagination. Don’t get me wrong, I wouldn’t want to be a freak, but an inch here and an eighth of an inch there would be fine with me.

Now, Mother Nature, in her infinite wisdom not only didn’t make all peni$es alike. She also didn’t make all vagin@s alike. Ladies, I ask you, does it make sense that an average woman with an average size vagin@ can’t be satisfied by an average size peni$?

Case in point, a former wife (deceased) divorced her first husband because he was too big. Let me repeat that—not too small but TOO B-I-G. So obviously, there can be a downside to being upsized. However, like in Goldilocks, my average sized peni$ fit just right.

So ladies think about this. If you feel the men you have sex with are undersized, is it really them or you? Could the wondrous, dainty and little tunnel of love, between your legs not be so little after all? In reality might it be the size of Carlsbad Cavern?


Blurb for my latest effort - Getting Naked at the Hilton

For Rachel, sex isn’t dirty; it’s a celebration of life. Rachel Cooke doesn’t give it to just anyone, but once she does, she enjoys it to the maximum, so prepare for the sexual experience of your life.

Rachel, can’t help but notice the luscious man sitting next to her at the bar in Pokey’s restaurant and lounge. His name is Scott and he seems preoccupied. When he starts mumbling indelicacies about Reverend Robertson and someone named Carol, Rachel’s innocent question appears to set inevitable romantic forces in motion.

They go dancing and as the evening progresses, so does their attraction. It’s evident they desire each other but Rachel has issues. It’s not obvious, but Rachel has a mixed race background and after just ending a disastrous relationship with Lester, her agent, she is not about to get close to anyone without laying her cards on the table. When Scott casually remarks that like her, he too, is only interested in getting to know her and if she happened to be sitting naked next to him, he wouldn’t lay a hand on her. She takes him up on it.

This leads them to spend a sexless night, fully naked in her Hilton hotel suite, a test of his resolve and character. Scott has no idea of the sexual adventuress that lies beneath Rachel’s demur, delightfully perky persona and after a wet hot passionate interlude in the shower, the following morning, all hell breaks loose and they wind up making love everywhere. Even in the depths of Hoover Dam.

Here is a buy link to Getting Naked at the Hilton


In closing here’s a couple one liners from the late, great Rodney Dangerfield.

A girl phoned me the other day and said "Come on over, there's nobody home." I went over. Nobody was home.

“When I was a kid my parents moved a lot, but I always found them.”

28 comments:

Desirée Lee said...

Some women may say it doesn't matter. I say it does. As nice as the huge ones are to look at in pictures and movies, etc, a guy who is too big for his particular woman is only going to hurt her. The sex won't be a pleasurable experience for either.

Now the first guy I was ever with was small. I'll admit, I had no experience to base it on at that point, but even back then I thought it would have been bigger! I can't say it was me because dammit, I was a virgin until I met him. It was simply a pinky winky.

Another ex-boyfriend was huge. I mean hung like a porn star! I was amazed and intimidated. The problem was, no matter how careful he was (and to his credit, he did try his best to be gentle and accommodating) or how much lube we used, I was always sore afterward, often bleeding from tearing. Yeah he was that big. It was awful.

I think the Goldilocks & the three bears analogy works here. There is such a thing as too little, too much and just right.

Carpe Noctem,
Des

Dee Dawning said...

Thanks Des, I really appreciate your input. As a bonus you made this averaged sized male smile. LOL

Elena said...

Why am I not surprised you turned this around, so it's someone else's fault and not your own?
As always Dee, you crack me up.
But I have to say you are right (though I will deny it if asked). Anyway, if you guys go on and on about breasts's size, we are entitled to counter attack!

Dee Dawning said...

Elena you stinker,

So good to hear from you. Thanks for dropping in.

You have SWM sent out yet? It's good.

Actually, when it comes to breast size, my appetite is rather modest.

LA Day said...

Have to agree with Des. There is too small and too large. Average usually works just fine. However, huge is awesome to write about in erotic fiction.

Honey~Angel said...

So what happens if you married as a virgin and never been with anyone else? Thirty-seven years and I can't help but wonder now if maybe we women shouldn't "shop" more or at least learn more before we stay monogamous.But then perhaps you guys should ,too.... learn more I mean and become monogamous.

Shira said...

Dee,

What an eye opener!!

*high 5* Elena.

Girls still only have one object to comment about size wise while Dee up and gave guys another.

Honey~angel, I was in the reverse situation. He was the virgin and I was the "more experienced" but he wouldn't go out and "learn", he wanted me to teach.

I guess I've taught well.

~ Shira

Dee Dawning said...

Thanks for the comment LA. Yes everything is proportional. Average for average and big for big...

Dee Dawning said...

To Honey Angel,
I think being a virgin is fine as long as they stay away from my books. They may be romantic but they certainly aren't erotic.

That said, because of the possible disparity of genitals, it may be a good idea to check for sexual compatibility before W-Day. Theoretically, a MD could check for size but there may be other issues, ie. lubrication, possible aversion to sex etc.

The only surefire way to test is to test and before W-Day.

Jude Mason said...

Hi Dee,

Laughed some at your post, but it sure rings true. Hubby and I have been together for uh...a huge amount of years, and we match up very nicely. He's average and I am too.

I was the experienced one when we met, and have had both too big and too small. It does matter, although if I had to choose between them, I'd take the smaller fella please. There are positions you can use that enhance what a fella has. There's no way to take a little off, if he's too big. *G* Besides, too small, doesn't hurt.

A good friend and I got talking one day and we decided there should be a school to teach this sex stuff. Us older, more experienced people would teach the newbies all about size, positions, what to try, how to try it. Classes for fetishes, classes for sexual preference. Yeah, we did get a little carried away, but it's sure fun to think about.

Before I make this into an epic, I'll just thank you for the man's side of this topic. Have an awesome Sunday!

Jude

Dee Dawning said...

Thanks for the comment Shira.

Virginity seems to be more important when you're young than as you get older. Now it seems overated. At least it is for me.

Thanks for dropping by.

Paige Tyler said...

What LA Day said! LOL!

Great post, Dee! And great blurb!

*hugs*
Paige

Dee Dawning said...

Hi Jude,

I can see where your sex school idea would be an asset to the inexperienced. Heck there may be something that around, it's a big world. I know there are tapes and DVDs around, so why not schools.

Good point and I'm glad you and hubby are compatible.

Dee Dawning said...

Thanks Paige,

So far, I haven't found anyone who disagreed with me. I'm pleasantly surprised.

Elizabeth Black said...

Did you know that the average penis is about five or six inches long? I can point to a new study that found that. So, most men who think they are too small are probably just fine.

As far as size goes, most women say it's the width and not the length that matters. There's also the old adage that, "It isn't the size of the pencil. It's how you write your name." So, what you do with your penis matters much more than it's size.

Besides that, Dee, it's a bit insulting for you to liken women who have issue with penis size as being as big as Carlsbad caverns. Watch out for the stalactites. One might land on you. ;)

Dee Dawning said...

Ho ho, Elizabeth, I will certainly stay away from the stalactites, stalagmites too.

I had heard that about girth as well and I agree with you, it's how adept a man is at wielding his weapon that makes him a good lover.
And that goes for women also.

If you took offense at my humorous reference to Carlsbad Cavern, I sincerely apologize, however, I think you'll agree that it's better than my initial choice--The Grand Canyon.

Thanks for your input. I really enjoyed it.

Elizabeth Black said...

Yeah, watch out in caves. The monsters will get you. ;)

Sometimes humor gets lost on the Internet because there aren't any facial expressions or voice tones to go with it. I've never been to Carlsbad, but I have been to the Grand Canyon. Beautiful. So that's another way to look at your comment - the vagina is one of nature's wonders. ;)

Dee Dawning said...

Indeed. I'm just crazy about 'em. I even write about 'em

Honey~Angel said...

Hey Jude... the school idea is wonderful!!Dee, virgins may want to be erotic,but have nowhere to learn except for people like you guys who write lovely ways for them to try out new things.No disparagement to any of you. Personally I think if we were more open about the entire subject there would be happier people because of more realistic expectations,instead of those of ignorance.

Dee Dawning said...

I can see it now, Dee and Jude's, School of Sex where inhibitions are left at the door. I wonder if we could get State or Federal funding? LOL.

I think one thing for sure. Many men and women both have some strange ideas about sex and most of it is based upon a lack of knowledge about the other gender and what they believe and think. I know a lot of the myths I carried about women have been smashed since I started writing erotic romance. I always loved women but now I feel I know so much more about you since I started hanging with you.

Ladies, really, I love you all!

Shannon Leigh said...

You had me rolling. I really enjoyed reading your blog. As far as size, I say as long as it works well, then it's fine with me. What the point of having a big one if you can't keep it up? Marvelous thing, a woman's vagina. A few kegels and it's likely to snuggle any size rod. Seems to me, since guys can't change the size of their equipment without undergoing surgery, then it's up to us to start tightening things up. And if that fails, toys come in handy. ;)

Shannon Leigh
www.angelfire.com/planet/shannon_leigh

Dee Dawning said...

Thanks oodles Shannon. I like your attitude.

Go girl

Genta said...

Hey Dee,
I am not sure if it is a too small too big things for me. It is more of a width thing. So may be I don't have an average size vagina.
Thanks for the thought!

Genta

Dee Dawning said...

Hey that's fine. You just need to find a good fit. Big or small or in between, it has to feel good to be good.

Thanks for stopping by

Sascha Illyvich, erotica romance writer and real estate investor said...

haha does it matter? Great post Dee and welcome to MSA :)

Sascha Illyvich

Barb said...

Hey Dee!
Great blog. What a way to turn it around on women. lol You do have a lot of good points that I never really thought about. BTW my husband uses canyon cunt instead of Carlsbad Caverns. He's so bad!

Dee Dawning said...

Thanks bunches Sascha and Barb, I had a ball writing it and I'm glad y'all liked it. I'll see if I can match it next month.

Ciao, Dee

Tess MacKall said...

You should check out my take on Size and does it really matter. I blogged about this twice! And women want to be able to feel the damned thing, but we could care less about it being huge. Hell huge would be painful. I've known a couple of women who have had huge and it isn't any fun!

As for that Carlsbad Cavern crack, well that's ok. No biggie for me. I'm constantly calling men Needle Dicks. lol...And yes, I've heard all the jokes over the years about a man nailing a two by four to his ass to keep from falling in...lol

Love this post, Dee....